dichotomy of depth

i was flying back from dallas. i was getting bored and restless. so, i picked up the airline magazine and started reading. i read the following:

"you can't have depths without surfaces. it's impossible. and sometimes surfaces are all we have to go by."

interesting.

when i got home from my mission, i was so bothered by the fact that there was so much superficiality in my social interactions. meeting new people at work, school and parties seemed so lame. i was getting sick of the "first date" questions - where are you from? what's your major? what is your favorite color? - all while i'm chewing gum and twirling my hair. i wanted something deeper and more meaningful. the interesting thing - i see now what the quotation above means. we have to be invested enough in the surface level to get any deeper. if there is something at the surface that engrosses us, we'll make the time and investment to dig deeper.

i've really come to appreciate the time and investment the relationships in my life have taken.